Online love

[rotten]

seems i cant delete but i changed my mind on all of this...*see bottom post*

<font color="#A851FF" size="1">[ March 20, 2002 07:29 PM: Message edited by: rotten ]</font>

[rotten]

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<font color="#A851FF" size="1">[ March 21, 2002 03:21 AM: Message edited by: rotten ]</font>

[*Leo the Lioness*]

no love like the one you have with your g/f huh? didn't you fuck someone else for REAL behind her back? how many times have you broken up and gotten back together?......don't even try to portray your relationship as perfection or any better than anyone else's, you understand? at least i can say i've never fucked anyone for real behind my husband's back......even i have my limits!

i've also told you then, and ever SINCE then, that i had no intention of going near you if we met up.....true, i wanted to know more about who you were offline, but ask how many of my other friends i've said that to and have chatted with by phone n shit......that's just me though, i'm curious about the people who sit on the other side of the glass from me....people are multi-dimensional, they have VOICES!......you were no different......all i woulda done is talk to you, have lunch with you, and maybe given you a hug n kiss.....and you even led me on about that, too.....you told me you were willing and then at the last moment, you said no, which was kind of a hassle for me and my friend in terms of plan-making, but you didn't really care who else you were yanking around, either.....not shocking

would your g/f approve of all that sex/sex toy talk you just admitted to doing? *G

and it's to your advantage that my yahoo didn't save back offline messages, cuz i know in one very recent one, you told me you <u>still</u> love me.....(between choruses of "you're a pathetic bitch, you'll never learn", "you're fucked up and sad", etc)......did you or did you not?.....whatever, i know at least Bri and CK were there to witness the trashing you gave me in the pool

so which time were you lying?

you lied to me when you told me you loved me just about every day for 9 months? *LMAO*

then i guess you're just basically a dishonest person based on the flip-flopping of facts i'm now witnessing......hehehe, keep talking, it's like watching a cockroach trying to crawl out of a pool of molasses *G

[rotten]

Oh leo that's the past...all in the past...i love you. I love all people, after all you have a soul and a good one that that.

Let's not fight, this is the net. I cannot fight on the net! wanna hear a cool joke?

[*Leo the Lioness*]

HAHAHA!! now he's resorting to deleting his posts.......fucking TYPICAL!!!

hey rotten, when's the entire thread going?? i should copy it and put it in one of my own so it wont go anywhere, just cuz you're pretty much on the wrong end of this debate.....your initial plan backfired on your ass and now you just wanna make it all go away *LOL*

*shaking head*......i really feel sorry for you, and you call ME the pathetic one *G

<font color="#A851FF" size="1">[ March 20, 2002 07:39 PM: Message edited by: *Leo the Lioness* ]</font>

[rotten]

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<font color="#A851FF" size="1">[ March 21, 2002 03:19 AM: Message edited by: rotten ]</font>

[heidi!]

I agree T that its easier to meet here..Thats the whole point isnt it...You dont have to be all pretty...You dont have to be gorgeous..and you dont have to buy a woman a drink...*G*...and its easier to talk to someone who you dont have stress with ...No bills waiting to be paid..No car payment is late here and no mortgage is due..that was my point...and you say its better..well that im not sure i agree with..because just as this can get old...Living with someone and having stress..or just living with the one person for years gets old..Which I guess is another reason people think they love here...But dont fool yourself into thinking that it would be this good if that person was with you when you wake up..all day long..and when you go to bed at night..
When real life stresses kick in you think its goin to be all I love you's then..Reality is when it becomes real time its like any other relationship...Thats where the challenge sets in..Can you do it real time..Or is it just a net thing..Can you fix problems in real life..Could you love this person every single day even when they arent having such a good day..etc..
I think its easier to meet someone here..I dont think its easier to build a relationship here though...My opinion the pain that comes with net relationships...and even friendships that go bad isnt worth it....And I have had my share of personal experience with pain here...and Im not saying I havent been there..Cause I have.

Again I dont think its wrong, Im not saying it cant work..Im just saying that I think its a rougher road than had you met the the person real life and dealt with things as they come.
I also think happiness first and foremost is important and if you think something is worth goin for then you should..No matter what..cause we only go this way once...and being happy and content in your life is the most important thing..and when you have that you can take on the world... [img]smile.gif[/img]

btw...I do think these people that fall in and out of love every few months here are not actually feeling "love"...there's no way you can fall deeply in love with someone then leave them and a few days later do the same thing. If love were that easy to come by, We would all be happy..*L*...I think thats just desperation for attention, and I agree with rotten on the fact that people that do the "I love you so much honey" in the pool and the board..I mean the ones that do it after every post are lame..You wouldnt do that in real life...Be at a party or social function and scream I love you from across the room....Or would you?..*L*

And T..I still think your a slut.. [img]wink.gif[/img]

[heidi!]

crap..sorry that was so long..*L*..I cant even edit it to make it shorter?..btw..T I also agree with you that if someone isnt getting what they need in their marriage or relationship they could just as easily screw around in real time. Happens all the time.. [img]smile.gif[/img]

[rotten]

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<font color="#A851FF" size="1">[ March 21, 2002 03:19 AM: Message edited by: rotten ]</font>

[Genie!]

ok, I have debated whether or not to post on this thread for a long time now. i have read and reread this thread over and over. I'm not saying this was directed at me, I dont know or care who it was directed at, but there has been alot said that I can relate to and that I am dealing with right now.
For me personaly, I came to the net to get away from the bitching and mental abuse I took from what is now my "soon to be ex husband". I dont have people bitching at me here and ruining my self asteem here. I have friends here who make me feel good about myself and accept me for who I am. My marriage was over a very long time ago. Shit, Ive been married 7 years and havent been happy since year 2. I was never allowed to be the real me, I had things happen to me from my own hubby that i would have never thought a human being would be capable of. So thats the reason i decided to get out. Not for someone on line, but for myself.
About my kids, anyone can ask my real true friends and even people i have met from the net in real life. My kids come first. I'm not about to give them up for anyone. My kids are gonna be first and 4 most in my life forever.
Anyway, to stick to the topic, i think alot of you have made good points, and I do agree with alot of you. but I can also see how people could fall in love with someone on the net. If you arent happy and someone is there everyday every night just to listen to you, try to help you out, try to understand you, then yeah you talk so long that you get to know them and appreciate them and start to touch real feelings and develop real feelings for them, especialy if you have known that person and been friends with them for 3 years. It's like my lawyer told me "Communication is 99.9 percent part of a reltionship. if you dont have communication then you will go and find communication with someone else that will listen to you and communicate with you the way you couldnt communicate with that person at home." I think that is so true. If you arent getting the communication you need at home or get what you need at home or arent happy at home, then you will find it somewhere, be it on the net, in real time or where ever.

Me personaly, I was married way to young. I NEVER got the chance to found out who I was. i never got to find out what I like or what I want out of life, and all that i had the chance to experience at life. I havent been happy for a very long time now. Now I have the chance to be truly happy. I have the chance to find out who I am and what i want out of life and what i want the rest of my life to be like. And I am going to make sure this time around I am happy. as well as putting my kids first. I have wanted to be happy for so long and now i have the chance, and whether anybody agrees with the way i'm doing it or not, I really dont care anymore. I've been held down too dam long and have worried too dam long about making others happy and caring what other people think. My happiness and my kids happiness comes first.
dam, ok, now I'm rambling i dont know exactly what i'm trying to say. im trying to prove my point and not sure how to put it into words and now i'm wondering why I even posted. Anyway. that was my 2 cents I'm done. I will say this before I go. I think in this day and age and time, with so much hate and unhappiness in the world,and as hard as it is to find real true love, if you find a happiness and a love like you have only dreamed of before and it makes you truly happy, then stick with it. Everybody has the right to have genuine true love and happiness. Ok, dam Im gonna stop while I'm still ahead.

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